Red, Yellow, and Green Thoughts Visual (free printable)

Red, Yellow, and Green Thoughts Visual (free printable)


Download and Print here: RedYellowandGreenThoughtsVisual

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Things you can think but never say.

These are “weird” thoughts.

Example: “Your outfit is really ugly.”


Things you can think but only say to SOME people.

Example: “I had an accident.”


Things you can think and say to ANYONE!

Example: “It’s a beautiful day.”


Beyond Anger Management: What’s Behind the Mask?

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“Angry” students, especially at the middle school level, are often referred to the school counselor. School counselors usually teach children and adolescents who are angry ways to manage their anger. These tips and techniques are great for the short term and even in the moment, but they do not always address the real reason behind the student’s anger.

Angry_Frustrated Masks by M. WilbournIn my previous school I ran many anger-management groups. What I discovered is that many students used anger to mask other emotions. It was easier to say they felt mad than to admit feeling hurt, abandoned, disappointed, lonely, or betrayed. I realized that many other issues were going on for my students who displayed anger. I dug deeper to determine what other issues they were dealing with behind their angry mask.

What’s Behind the Mask?
I have done mask activities in a variety of groups. I find this activity particularly interesting and…

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Empathy Activity (Free) – In someone else’s shoes

In Someone Else’s Shoes – Empathy Activity

This is a great fit for an empathy lesson, which can go well with a book as well! Perfect for individual, small groups, and classroom guidance lesson. For Classroom Guidance Lessons, splitting the class into groups and giving each group a scenario can work great!

This product comes with 6 scenarios that students can discuss related to empathy, and a worksheet. The students can use this worksheet either to draw or write about what they would do in a particular situation. Enjoy this freebie product! 🙂

Download FREE here: InSomeoneelsesshoesEmpathyActivity


What is on the cards:

  •  You are on the playground and you see someone get pushed down on the ground. Put yourself in their shoes. How would you feel? What could you do to help?
  •  A Classmate is being made fun of because of the way they look. Put yourself in their shoes. How would you feel? What could you do to help? 
  •  You see that a friend got a bad grade on a test and they seem really sad about it. Put yourself in their shoes. How would you feel? What could you do to help?
  •  A friend forgot their lunch at home, and they don’t have food to eat at lunch time. Put yourself in their shoes. How would you feel? What could you do to help? 
  •  At recess time, there is someone sitting out with no one to play with. Put yourself in their shoes. How would you feel? What could you do to help?
  •  A classmate forgot their pencil case at home and they don’t have anything to write with. Put yourself in their shoes. How would you feel? What could you do to help?

Anxiety Task/Coping Cards (Free!)


This product contains 24 task cards related to vocab words related to anxiety (trigger, self-talk, coping skills), ideas for coping and problem solving.


Download and print here: AnxietyTaskCards

Ideas on How to Use The FREE Coping With Anxiety Task Cards:

  1. Prompts for games
  2. Conversation Starters
  3. Group Activities
  4. Use for Teaching New Vocab
  5. What is on the Cards:
  • Alexis often wondered “what if” and this made her very worried. Next time she had one of these thoughts what could she do?
  • Some people feel calmer when they listen to music. What songs help you relax?
  • Talking with someone about how you are feeling can be helpful. Who is someone you can talk about your anxiety with?
  • Think about the things that you are thankful for. Share 3 things…
  • When you feel worries coming, touch something and focus on as many things as you can about what you feel.
  • Talk about the differences between worries, nervousness and anxiety.
  • Try give yourself a little break when you feel anxious: drink of water, stretching or going for a little walk.
  • A trigger is a word that means “something that makes you feel a feeling.” Talk about one of your triggers of anxiety.
  • Coping skills are things that make you feel better when you are anxious or upset. What are some of your favorite coping skills?
  • Talk about a time when you had anxiety and were able to cope with it (make your anxiety go away).
  • Think of your favorite smell. Now close your eyes and imagine smelling it .
  • When you are feeling anxious count the number of blue things you see.
  • Self-talk is how we talk about our situations to ourselves. Positive self-talk is “I can do this.” Negative self talk is “I can’t do anything right.” Say something about your self-talk.
  • Jack gets anxious when he is around new people. What do you think he can do to feel confident?
  • Talk about how your body feels when it is calm.
  • Practice taking 3 deep breathes
  • What do you think it means to “have butterflies in your stomach?”
  • Talk about things that make you worry.
  • Talk about a time when you had a “what if” thought.
  • Imagine somewhere relaxing. Talk about the sights, sounds and smells of this place.
  • Practice being mindful of how it feels when you take a deep breath.
  • Think about a time when you thought something was too hard. What could you think next time something seems like it is too hard?
  • Talk about where in your body you feel anxiety.

Free Worksheets Activities for Emotional Mental Health Skills!

Great Activities for teaching kids coping skills and social skills. This activity is great for teaching impulse control and rewards and consequences to young children and children diagnosed with ADHD, ODD and other Behavior Disorders.


Free Printable Summer Journal Prompts (boy): 34e266073a6307bec29dd7faf6ca26e3


Free Printable Instructions for Board Game, Chutes & Laggers, to teach kids about rewards/consequences & Impulse control: 127ee75e3088ac51573aa78f9dc66f95


Download explanation of Lego Activity to Teach Following directions and perseverance: c91af50127aa7550ee89e51c85ed24bc


Emotion Regulation Worksheet 1a

buddha angerThe next time you’re feeling sad, guilty, remorseful, or even angry at yourself for lashing out a loved one, consider this:1.) We all have those moments when anger gets the best of us.  It’s important to remember to try our best next time to be more skillful. What we say and do matters.  That is because WE matter. And so do other people. Words can be so powerful and have a long and lasting impact. Let’s choose them wisely and carefully.2.) Dr. Marsha Linehan, founder of DBT (Dialectical Behavior Therapy) says that “everything has cause.” The fact that you lashed out was not random. There were circumstances, vulnerabilities, interpretations, and so many other variables that happened before that moment.If you recently had an incident like this, take a look at Emotion Regulation Worksheet 1a.  This form helps walk you through your reaction and helps you to understand the contributing factors to how you reacted.  It also gives you the opportunity to extend compassion to yourself and to reflect on how you plan to cope the next time you are faced with a potentially angering situation.Emotion Regulation Worksheet 1a DBT3.) Anger is a common emotion to all humans. It’s how we handle it that matters. Emotion Regulation Handout 4 lists some prompting events for feeling the emotion of anger:

  • Having an important goal blocked or prevented
  • Having an important or pleasurable activity interrupted, postponed, or stopped
  • You or someone you care about being attacked or hurt physically or emotionally by others
  • You or someone you care about being threatened with physical or emotional pain by someone or something
  • You or someone you care about being insulted
  • Losing power
  • Losing status
  • Losing respect
  • Not having things turn out the way you expected
  • Experiencing physical pain
  • Experiencing Emotional Pain
  • Not obtaining something you want (which another person has)”
    (The above list is from page 29 of Dr. Marsha Linehan’s Skills Training for Disordered Emotion Regulation, in press).  Dr. Linehan also wrote Skills Training Manual for Treating Borderline Personality Disorder.)
4.) If your anger is “justified,” meaning that any of the first four, bold bullet points above are the reason for your anger, Dr. Marsha Linehan suggests using problem solving to deal with the situation.  And whether or not the anger is justified, you can practice Opposite Action by:
  • Gently avoid the person you are angry with (as opposed to attacking them)
  • Take a time out and breath in and out slowly
  • Do the OPPOSITE of other angry urges
    (above modified from page 50 of  Dr. Marsha Linehan’s Skills Training for Disordered Emotion Regulation, in press).
She also recommends doing the Opposite Action to anger wholeheartedly by:
  • Trying to understand or empathize with the other person, seeing the ordeal from his or her perspective
  • Change your posture so that you are more relaxed. Try half-smiling.
  • Change body chemistry by breathing slowly, running or doing something else that is high energy and non-violent
Which of these skills do you think will be most helpful to you the next time you feel the onset of anger?
What do you currently do when you get angry?
What do you do that helps you from making the situation worse?

Emotions – Free Printable Flashcards (Lego and more…)

I enjoy creating our free printable flashcards, but this particular group of flashcards holds a special place above the rest.

While addition and subtraction are important subjects (and the most commonly used flashcards), some things that are often overlooked can be just as crucial to a child’s development.

I thought it’d be great if we could practice his social skills at home.  One area that we’ve worked on is body language and emotions.

The flashcards below are a result of the work we’ve done with our child.  I created a couple sets of both male and female flash cards.  You may want to print them all out (or have your child pick out a set on the computer) and use the ones your child responds well too.

Free Printable Flashcards:Emotions

Print out the flashcard templates below, cut, fold, and glue them, then use them alongside story-time and other activities.

The words I’ve included on the backs of the flash cards are broad.  It might not be the word your child uses, but as long as it’s something similar, go with what the child knows.

Once they’ve developed an emotional vocabulary, be sure to use it in everyday speech.  While reading stories or watching movies, you can ask your child how certain characters feel.   Your child may also enjoy using the cards to tell how he or she feels. There are a few different sets to choose from so have fun.

For more flash cards you can print, see the link at the end.


Free PDF printable here LEGO Emotions Flash Cards: free-printable-flashcards-4-2


Free PDF Printable Flashcards here (Female): free-printable-flashcards


Free PDF Printable Flashcards here (Male): free-printable-flashcards-2


DBT – Mindfulness – be aware of yourself – free worksheet

Mindfulness – Be aware of yourself. Be gentle with yourself. Understand yourself. Nurture yourself. Love yourself.


Download and print (free) here: being_mindful_with_emotional_distress


Assertive Rights – Improving Assertiveness

Assertive Rights

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