What Size is Your Child’s Anger?
Whenever I work with a child with anger issues, I like to have them describe the size of their anger. Is it small, medium, large or super-sized? Some kids never move beyond “medium” while others go from “small” to “super-sized” in mere seconds. We can thank temperament for that, in large part.
If you parent a child with a strong temperament and BIG feelings
, you are probably no stranger to “large” and “super-sized” displays of anger. I have certainly seen my fair share, both as a mom and as a therapist.
The Good News
The good news is, we can help our kids
learn how to regulate BIG feelings by giving them opportunities to talk about their feelings, name their feelings and identify ways to “shrink down” the intenstiy of it all. I know that this works, because I’ve seen it in action (both at home, and at my office).
Simply download our free printable to start the discussion with your child about how BIG his or her anger is. Keep a few on hand to use when you see your child’s anger is amping up. Talk about how you can shrink it down to a smaller size. For some ideas, go here
Print out our download and keep several on hand for kids to use when they are getting angry. Encourage them to go back and circle the smaller sized shape as they feel their anger shrinking down. For some ideas on helping kids shrink their anger down, go here
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A very savvy reader from our Anger Toolbox for Kids facebook page
asked, “What do you do if the child’s anger is too big to fit on the page?” An excellent question, for sure! My response was, “You get as much newspaper as it takes, and allow the child to tape as many pieces together as they see fit, until they can draw how big their anger is.” Pure simplicity. An excellent way to validate a child’s feelings.